Should My Kid Play in the Recital?
One of the most common questions I get from parents is “should my kid play in the recital?” That’s such a great question because it’s coming from a place of support, encouragement, and genuine interest in your child’s musical journey.
Recitals aren’t just shows, they’re milestones. Let’s break down what that really means so you can decide what’s best for your kid.
🎸 Why Recitals Matter
At heart, a recital is a chance to perform; not to impress the room, not to be perfect, but to share music with others. Performing builds confidence in a way that practicing alone just can’t replicate. It gives students a goal to work toward, focus in practice, and a boost of pride afterward when they look back and say, “I did that.”
And here’s the thing; recitals at many music schools (including this one) are optional and pressure-free, meaning the emphasis is on experience, not perfection. There are no winners or losers.
🎯 Not Just for “Advanced” Players
You might worry: “But they’re not ready!” Funny thing, most kids feel that way about themselves, too, but readiness isn’t about being perfect; it’s about growth.
Here’s what performing even a short, simple piece teaches:
Goal-setting and follow-through - preparing for a recital gives practice purpose.
Comfort with new experiences - learning to perform helps kids manage nerves and step out of their comfort zone in a safe environment.
Joy in sharing music - playing for family, friends, or classmates creates a moment kids remember.
Even if the piece isn’t “concert-level,” the experience is valuable.
😊 What Parents Can Do to Support
You play a huge role here! You can help make performance a positive experience by…
Encouraging preparation - supportive, calm practice beats pressure every time.
Framing it as fun, not fear - make the recital sound like a celebration, not a test.
Celebrating effort - praise the progress and bravery more than the end result.
🎶 But What If My Kid Really Doesn’t Want To?
Great question. If your child is anxious, hesitant, or just truly uninterested, that’s okay, too. A recital shouldn’t be mandatory or something they feel forced into. If this is the case, you might…
Give them a little more time and try again later.
Let them be part of the audience first.
Support them in choosing a piece that feels exciting (even if simple).
The goal is joy and a sense of accomplishment, not guilt.
🎤 The Real Answer?
If you’re reading this, you’re already thinking about your child’s experience and growth and that’s the first big step. If your child wants to play in the recital, encourage it. If they’re unsure, gently invite them to try, and if they decide to sit it out this time, that’s absolutely okay too.
Every student’s path is different and music should feel good. Whether your kid performs this year or next, the journey, with its small challenges and big smiles is the real reward.
So take a deep breath and cheer them on!